How Do I Find a Wedding Officiant and What Do I Ask?

The wedding planning process is full of many details but choosing who marries you to your soulmate is one of the biggest.

First things first. What do you need to know or find out in the state where you will be married. Is it required in the state that the officiant be ordained, that they be registered with the state, or nothing at all? Different states and countries have different requirements.

Whomever you choose, they should know what is required of them and you in their state.

Next, do you want to be married in a church or other religious venue? A religious venue often require that you use their religious clergy and ask for a donation to the church.  

Most weddings these days, when not in a church, are held at the venues of the reception or a special place the couple share such as the woods, beach, lake or ANY place you like.

Even if you choose to be married in the great outdoors or your reception venue you need to decide if you want a spiritual leader as your officiant, a civil officiant, or a professional officiant. What’s the difference?

Most spiritual leaders represent a certain religion, have religious training or have been ordained in a church.

Civil officiants are generally a judge, mayor or notary and perform the bare minimums required in their state. These are usually straightforward, simple ceremonies that last about 5 minutes.

Professional officiants have a broader range of experience in a variety of religions and especially in cultural rituals. They often create a script specific to a couple’s personality.

Forty percent of today’s weddings are elopements or micro-weddings. These days the term elopement doesn’t mean you snuck away and didn’t tell anyone. Usually, it just means that the two of you wish to have an intimate personal ceremony with just the two of you and maybe a few friends or family.

Of course, there are the other sixty percent of weddings that take a lot more planning.

Remember, always enjoy the journey! If you aren’t looking forward to the journey, then you may need to readjust so that your journey is joyful.

Sometimes it’s easy to get lost in the planning of the event, the party, flowers, food, clothes, the list of invitees, all of which, of course, take a lot of planning. Sometimes the ceremony is left to later in the process. And no matter how fun the celebration will be, the ceremony is the reason it’s all happening.

Officiants sometimes book a year in advance too. Mostly booking season starts at the end of the year around holidays such as Christmas and Valentines Day. Saturdays are the most popular so if this is the day of the week for you, remember they book quickly!  If you have 4 seasons where you live, outdoor venues may be used in winter but there is likely more ceremonies taking place in the spring, summer and fall in which case officiants may be booked further in advance.

How to find an officiant

There are many avenues to finding an officiant. You found my blog so you either found me on Facebook or a google search.

There is The Knot and Wedding Wire which is a great resource to every vendor you need, and many professional and highly experienced wedding officiants can be found there as well. Vendors on The Knot and Wedding Wire pay a monthly fee to have a storefront on their site.

You can do a local yelp search, other bridal sites, and check out specific city/state Facebook bride/wedding groups. You will also find other brides there who can make recommendations.

Another great source is your wedding venue coordinator. Often local officiants will perform ceremonies at their venue and the coordinator can make a firsthand recommendation.

Finally, ask your vendors. A lot of us officiants work and collaborate with them as well. They also have that firsthand experience with us.

Your initial consultation

Let your officiant get to know you! Are you fun and light-hearted, do you want a more traditional wedding, do you practice any faith whether formal or not. How do you feel about the mention of God? Do you want a short ceremony? Have you seen rituals at other weddings you would like to include? Do you have family or friends you would like to be part of the ceremony or someone that has passed away that you would like to acknowledge?

If your officiant doesn’t cover some of these, be sure to ask if they apply to you.

If your officiant asks you questions like “How did you meet” or “Tell me a funny story about the two of you.” Go ahead and answer the question so they can get to know you, but if you don’t want it mentioned in the ceremony be sure to let them know.

What if I don’t know what kind of ceremony I want yet?

No worries! The sky’s the limit! During your initial consultation, and as you and your officiant get to know a little about each other, they will ask you the right questions to spark your imagination. You will have more time for inspiration once you have chosen your officiant and the process has officially started.

You can create any kind of ceremony you wish, you can include children, fur babies, members of the family or friends, and many cultural rituals. Some rituals are really gaining popularity again, especially ancient traditions such as handfasting’s. Ask your officiant about these and see if anything feels authentic to you and your relationship. They should have some ideas for you before you make the decision to work with that officiant.

There are also ways to include parents/family members who might be religious and give them a role in your ceremony that doesn’t feel religious to you and your partner but will make them feel honored in their beliefs.


It’s only natural to be nervous and the process can be nerve-wracking! Once you know the ceremony reflects the two of you, let your officiant run the show. That’s why you hired a professional. Hopefully you have chosen them because you know they are confident in what they do, they have experience, and they are there to ground you in the moment. It’s one of the most special and important moments of your life and will remember forever!

If you would like more information about Love is Love Wedding Officiants, please visit my website at  I would love to get to know you and share more about the services I provide to make your ceremony authentically you!

Navigating the Winter Wonderland: Tips for Planning Your Colorado Winter Wedding

As winter sets its enchanting grip on the picturesque landscapes of Colorado, planning a wedding during this season brings its own set of challenges and unique considerations. For brides-to-be and their grooms, here are some essential points to keep in mind when orchestrating a winter wedding in the breathtaking beauty of the Centennial State.


1. **Embrace the Magic of Winter Weather:**

   While winter in Colorado offers a fairy-tale backdrop with snow-covered mountains and glistening landscapes, it's crucial to be prepared for unpredictable weather. Keep a close eye on the weather forecast leading up to the big day and be ready for sudden changes. Advise guests about the possibility of cold temperatures and encourage them to dress accordingly. Consider providing cozy blankets or shawls for guests to stay warm during outdoor ceremonies.


2. **Navigate Road Closures and Travel Concerns:**

   Winter storms in Colorado can lead to road closures and travel disruptions. Keep abreast of road conditions and potential closures, especially if your wedding venue is located in a mountainous area. Provide guests with up-to-date information and, if necessary, suggest alternative routes. It may be wise to schedule the wedding earlier in the day to allow ample time for travel and avoid potential weather-related delays.


3. **Check Venue Accessibility:**

   If you're planning an outdoor wedding in a public space like a park, ensure that the venue is accessible and not closed off during the winter months. Some parks limit access or may be dedicated to winter sports like snowshoeing, making it essential to confirm that your chosen location is available for your ceremony. Work closely with park authorities and obtain any necessary permits well in advance.


4. **Winter-Ready Attire:**

   Dressing appropriately for a winter wedding is key. For the bridal party, consider long-sleeved dresses, faux fur wraps, or elegant shawls to stay warm while looking stylish. Grooms and groomsmen can opt for tailored suits in heavier fabrics, complemented by winter accessories like scarves and gloves. Footwear is equally important—think about stylish yet practical options like fur-lined boots or closed-toe shoes.


5. **Warm Welcome for Guests:**

   Extend a warm welcome to your guests by offering hot beverages upon arrival. Consider setting up a hot chocolate or mulled wine station to keep everyone warm and in good spirits. Small touches like hand warmers or blankets at each seat can add a thoughtful and practical element to the ceremony.


In conclusion, planning a winter wedding in Colorado requires careful consideration of the unique challenges posed by the season. By staying flexible, keeping an eye on the weather, and addressing potential road closures or venue limitations, you can create a magical winter wonderland for your special day. Embrace the beauty of the season, and your Colorado winter wedding will undoubtedly be an unforgettable celebration of love.